How To Build Up Your Confidence
Confidence, what does it mean? Attitude is what defines confidence.
What happens to us is less important than what we make happen. So, let me tell you a story about what I was going through a few months back and what I have learned from that
Story 1:
I was having a driving license test and it was a huge deal for me because I don’t own a Scotty but still applied for this test with my friend’s scooter. So that day I was going it was a total disaster. On road, some protests were going on and I was getting late all the roadside is blocked. Worst scenario I have imagined. Then when I arrived at the test drive location it was not started. Just about to start and they ask, who wants to go first. I picked up my hand. But by that time I was so drained and so much tired that I have zero confidence in myself. I was too nervous to explain. Then what else, I failed miserably. I crossed that line of the arena. But what I learned is that before taking the test I was already too nervous that I failed half of the test. I was not having that confidence only that I will pass. So eventually what you think, will happen if you are making up your mind in such a way. Confidence can make you win in a different situation. So be confident and clear about your goal.
Story-2:
Most of us going through this situation I believe. Here, confidence is the main key. In my college days when I was in my third year, placement just started, and we all are preparing for placement. One thing I faced in common in interviews is that even if we don’t know things in depth if we make them believe with confidence that yeah we have knowledge of this. The interviewer is going to like your attitude because they mostly check your patience and how well you can handle things with confidence. So mainly confidence is the game changer thing over here.
Now, Let me tell you what are the things that will make you confident?
First, what limitations will you accept?
It is not possible for one person to know everything, and acceptance of this is key to embracing humility. “Always be open to taking others’ opinions and asking for their expertise, when required.
Second what choices do you make?
Step 1. Don’t let stress get the better of you. It’s easy to feel stressed out and anxious when you’re facing a tough choice. You might tend to rush your decisions without thinking them through, or you avoid making a decision at all because the stress has put you off your game. If you’re feeling anxious about a decision, try to manage your stress so that it doesn’t cloud your thinking. Go for a walk on the beach. Hit up a yoga class or hang out with friends.
Step 2. Give yourself some time (if possible). It’s hard to think clearly under pressure, and sometimes your first idea isn’t always your best one. Give yourself the chance to sit on a problem for a while so that you can process your options and feel confident about the course of action you choose.
Step 3. Weigh the pros and cons. When faced with a big decision, sometimes we lose sight of the big picture. Write a list of pros and cons for each course of action and then compare them. Sometimes the cons aren’t nearly as bad as we imagine them to be, or the pros might make your options more obvious.
Step 4. Think about your goals and values. It’s important to be true to ourselves and what we value in life. When you factor into a decision the things that are important to you, the best option might become obvious. At any rate, you’re more likely to end up with an outcome you’re happy with.
Step 5. Consider all the possibilities. Making a decision can result in several different outcomes and not all of them may be obvious. When considering each option, don’t just list the positives and negatives; write down any likely consequences.
Step 6. Talk it out. It can be helpful to get another person’s perspective on your issue, particularly if they’ve faced a similar decision in their own life.
Step 7. Keep a diary. If you feel like you’re on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster, it might help to keep track of your feelings by writing them down.
Step 8. Plan how you’ll tell others. If you think someone may have a bad response to your decision, think through what their reaction is likely to be. Put yourself in their shoes to help you think of a good way to manage the situation.
Step 9. Rethink your options. If you’re up against a lot of pressure over a decision, or there are some new factors to consider, look over your options again. You might decide that your original decision is still the best one, but give yourself the option of changing course. If a decision no longer feels right for you, go through these steps again to figure out a better solution.
Third, what will you learn from your mistake and your success?
Own Your Mistakes First
You can’t learn anything from a mistake until you admit that you’ve made it. So, take a deep breath and admit to yours, and then take ownership of it. Inform those who need to know, apologize, and tell them that you’re working on a solution.
Fourth, who determines your growth rate?
Only you can determine your growth rate by setting your goal high and by following adaptable mindset.
These are the four things you need to ask yourself first and you will get your confidence back.
